SOME THINGS THAT MAKE ME TICK...
BEING your own LEADER
Not the same as being your own boss, similar but more so in how you execute your life. At some point in your life you have to sit down and work out who you are and what you want. If you aren't happy, what can you do about it? Are you willing to make those necessary changes? Or do you find answers or ‘reasons’ why it is not possible to take action. These are basically excuses!, if you want to change yourself it is definitely possible and we can do this together!.
It is not easy to make these changes alone. It's very hard to go against everything you know and follow your gut. This is why I am here to guide you through the process and help you find the right answers.
If the truth is you are unwilling to be a leader in your own life and take responsibility for your own happiness because of the responsibility you have to others. How about I ask what would be the long term consquence for your family and friends for you to continue being unhappy?
Finding your inner guidance is an entirely individual process that can take days, weeks or years. At some point most people decide on who they are and what they want from life. It's knowing whether this decision has been taken from your inner guidance or dictated by those around you, or societal values (what you feel you ‘should’ be doing but don’t actually feel happy about).
My belief is, if you are truly connected to your true self, and guided from that place, your life will be well instructed and happy. No mountain in unsurmountable.
Why being ‘SELFISH’ is unselfish
Be mindful how you spend your time. This is creating your future.
Are you giving time to causes, organisations, clubs and activities that actually leave you completely drained and you feel unappreciated?
Perhaps at work you are working the hardest, putting in all the overtime in order to provide for your family.
You can now choose how you want to live, the world is changing and many new opportunities are available at your fingertips, to suit your dream life. If you want to work with causes, that's great! but find ones that set your soul on fire and bring energy back to yourself. It’s about filling your cup before you can pour out to others.
Most successful people have been selfish with their time in order to get where they are. They value and understand that it pays to build a rewarding life in which they are not burning out in the process. Once they have achieved success then they can put the time back to help others. Time and money are the currencies that are rewarded to the successful. As we all know, time and money provide opportunity.
As a mum, there is sometimes the perception that it is honourable to put ourselves last. We are led to believe that anything other that total sacrifice for our children makes you a bad mum. I believe it's impossible to work or mother effectively from an 'empty cup'. If you are exhausted, everything is effected, from your mood, your health, your impact on relationships. It's time to prioritise time for yourself. Having been there myself I know it to be true.
In order to start my business, I had to retrain, work unsociable hours, and be open about what my beliefs were. I work hard because it is a passion and it doesn't feel like work to me!
In the process of my personal journey I have lost some friends as I started to change my priorities. All of these were big issues I had to work through and are very real experiences I had to endure in order to transform my reality and become my ‘authentic’ self.
OPINION over TRUTH
Through working with clients, personal development, guidance and training, one of my biggest learnings is that beyond the law (which we must adhere to) there is no ‘right or wrong’ way to live your life. Only your chosen way that's right for you.
Everyone’s personal ideological structure is built up over years of experiences, lessons and learnings. This forms your opinions, beliefs and your self esteem. This becomes your truth but it might not be of your own choosing. Everyone takes on negative beliefs that affect the way we think everyday. If this voice becomes too powerful in our life, it can have a detrimental affect. This is a time to become aware of your life and whether it is feeling right for you. If not, it's time to make changes to old habits and create a new story.
Some people aren’t going to agree with your opinions only because they haven’t the ability to see the world from your perspective. It doesn’t mean they are right or you are right. Morals are personal and built on your own values and belief systems. It is our challenge in life to find a way to effectively communicate our beliefs in a way that is inclusive and productive in living harmoniously together.
SPIRITUALITY or PERSONAL COMPASS
I believe in a combination of the two. These beliefs are very personal and are arrived at through my own explorations into different philosophies. I believe I am autonomous in my thought and actions yet i also believe in a higher consciousness that brings meaning to my own existence. This is an area of my own personal philosophical and theological development, I am currently and probably will always be working on! (see spirituality)
Modern Spirituality and Coaching
So what do I mean by spirituality in coaching?
Trust and intuition.
I use my ability to ‘tune in’ to my intuition and creative mindspace when speaking with clients. This is a deeply concentrated level of focus on you and your whole persona. To listen, absorb, digest and allow suggestions and thoughts to guide the sessions forward. It‘s having trust in the process, that we are being guided to find the best solutions for you.
From my first memories as a child until now, I have always felt blessed in the presense of a higher power. I believe the principle behind all religion is a seeking for truth, peace, harmony and love.
This to me is everpresent in all things, in each experience, interaction and sensation. I may not have recongnised it for many years, but through awakening and unfolding, now I am aware of what this conciousness is for me.
Each day I wake and feel thankful I am able to fulfil my purpose on a soul level in helping others live a good life.